sex education uk age
'many parents raise their kids on a diet of discipline...' it's our responsibility to be in control of the music they listen to, the movies they watch and the friends they have. '..rigid boundaries...' i'm not your friend. i'm your parent.
sex education uk age, '..and immediate consequences.' my dad is really strict. if you break the rules he is very scary. 'can traditional parenting change the lives of rebellious british teenagers?' i was brought here on this earth to party.
she can be an absolute nightmare. it's awful. my lifestyle is playing xbox, getting hammered and having sex. yeah, i went to anger management. got kicked out of anger management for being angry. not even the queen of england can tell me what to do. he's slapped me. he's poked me. he's pushed me. i am what i am. if you don't like it, then jog on. 'to find out, two teens who've never met before 'will leave their families...'
- maybe she'll come home and be nice. - doubt it. '..and head off to a world 'where they will live according to strict rules set by new parents.' you are not in the uk. you are in barbados! the most awful people i've met in my whole life. she can have her hissy fit. this is our rule. if you're going to cop an attitude about it, forget it. what are you going to do? i'm not going to argue with that psychotic bitch.
if this is how they are, i'm sorry for britain. this programme contains some strong language. '17-year-old sevda huseyin thinks the world revolves around her.' i love being centre of attention. i love it. if i'm not, i'll make myself centre of attention. everything has got to be about sev. she can be selfish. it's going to be mad tonight! oh, my god! 'coming from east london, she's learned to stick up for herself.'
she likes to put on the impression that she's hard - but she is. - i had a fight with that shopkeeper. - so did i. 'everyone's got their guard up.' i had a fight in wood green, in finsbury park. oh! everywhere, man! i can't even remember half of them. i'm gonna go raving tonight. i look sexy... sev talks the gangsta talk. everyone come out your house, yeah. bang bang, yeah. it can be embarrassing. "talk properly!"
people say my attitude stinks. i love my attitude. it's who i am. 'sevda's dropped out of school without a single gcse.' school was shit! it was shit. hate school. you've got no education behind you. nothing. i can't be bothered, mum, to hear it again. it does my head in. 'when sevda was a baby, her father went home to turkey.' 'when it comes to my dad, obviously, i've got anger problems.' it's made me think people lash out at you, lash out back at them. 'hard-working single mum joan is worried she's going nowhere fast.'
she doesn't care. it's really... something's shading over her. she wants to do what she wants to do and that's it. 'in the heart of sussex, '17-year-old andrew harwood is loving the drop-out lifestyle.' at the moment in my life, not much is going on. average day in my life - wake up midday, an hour lying in bed smoking, couple of drinks, head to my girlfriend's house, start drinking, smoke, be up till five. that's a pretty good day. andrew wouldn't pick a thing from the floor.
'the state of his room is a disaster.' - andrew, look at this! - all right. - dirty underpants. what the hell? 'andrew's parents were well-off and he had privileged upbringing.' he has had the chance to experience amazing things around the world. i like the way i've been raised. i wouldn't want to live in a council flat. 'andrew was a promising student, but he blew his education.' i can't remember how many gcses i've got. three or something? i basically wasted 120 grand of my parents' money in private school.
with all the pain in my heart, i feel highly disappointed. 'four years ago, his parents separated. the privileges stopped.' i went to a normal state school. stereotype chavs. they were foul. 'andrew still sees his dad, but his attitude to his mum leaves a lot to be desired.' andrew has been sometimes horrible. 'it's really upsetting.' - this is a reflection of how messy your life is, honey. - it's my room! it's just a mess! i don't want to turn out like her or dad. they have their good parts but they're both incredibly flawed.
'claudia worries andrew has given up on himself.' as a parent, i'm facing something that is frightening me. 'he's not going anywhere. masses of potential wasted.' 'to try and get their teenagers to do something positive, 'both mums have agreed to send them to strict parents in another country.' goodbye, mother. it would be rather nice to see him to realise his potential, to know that he can achieve so much more. listen, i'm going to say bye.
- crying: - bye, mum! - and be good. don't let us down. all right? - all right. i'm hoping that she has more respect for everybody. gets rid of the attitude and learns to appreciate me a bit more. hi. i'm sevda. - yeah. i'm good. how are you? - i'm fine. - nice. - are you nervous? - i'm shitting myself. 'the teens will be travelling 5,000 miles to san antonio, texas, 'to stay with the frazees, a deeply religious conservative family.'
the role of god in our family life is central. we're very faith based. 'randy is pastor at the local megachurch, 'while his wife roseanne raises their children david and austin. 'eldest daughter jennifer has left home but frequently visits.' thank you for tonight, the opportunity of getting together. amen. 'the frazees like to set an example to families in the community.' we're not just trying to be a family for the sake of our own family. we have a broader community that's counting on us.
one thing that's important that our do kids know is that we love them unconditionally. 'the frazees operate a system of trust for their children's access to money and credit cards.' - this is my gas money that i spent. - you used the credit card? - yup. - i appreciate you being honest about that, son. we found that trust is a principle that has worked for us as parents. when they prove to be trustworthy, we give them more freedoms. when they prove to be untrustworthy, we take those freedoms away. my parents are very...understanding. and i want to be like them when i grow older.
understanding what a child is going through is hard for a parent. 'in the house, mum roseanne is in charge.' austin, would you go wash a little bit, please? part of loving your children is not giving them everything they want. 'the way we show that we love them is by setting guidelines.' if you finish the dish washing we'll get dinner on the table quicker. 'these rules and boundaries can produce a place of laughter that's positive.' it doesn't always have to be hard. 'after eight hours, the teens finally arrive in texas.'
we're in texas, you know. - pretty fucking stressful. - stuck-up snobs. if they tell me what to do, i'm gonna show them what's what, innit? - that's how we do it. - word. 'the "buckle of the bible belt", texas is one of the most conservative states in america. '77% of the population are christian 'and attend one of the 11,000 churches.' i feel like i'm surrounded by god. i feel like there's god everywhere. i'd laugh if we got sent to one of those churches.
a tiny church and the biggest cross! it's like driving to hell. are we here? we're not, are we? they're comin'. they're there. oh, my god. home, sweet home. joke. oh, my god. i don't want to get out the car. i'm gonna cry. everyone: hello. - roseanne: how are you? - i'm fine. - welcome, guys. - i'm roseanne.
- i'm randy. - hi, randy. - we're the mom and dad of the family. andrew, nice to meet you. first of all, welcome to texas. - this is our daughter, jennifer. - i like your hair. - thank you. - we have david back here. he is our oldest son. - hello, david. david just graduated from university, magna cum laude. this is austin. he's just turned 18. he's doing an internship at the southwest research institute, which is a space centre. glad to have you guys here. it's going to be a fun time.
'for the next seven days, the teens will be staying in the frazees' immaculate mansion.' obviously, the kitchen, where we hang out and get some great food. - walk-in closets. - oh. my. days! oh, shit! jacuzzi tubs. oh, my word. this is proper nice. - this is our outside living area. i think you'll enjoy this. - wow! 'for the frazees, 30 years of righteous hard work has reaped its rewards.' - these are books that i've written. - sevda gasps
i am a pastor, a minister of a megachurch here in texas. - megachurch! - our church is 10,000 folks. - you'll get a chance to experience that. - i can't. i'm not christian. that's ok. you don't have to be christian. - i don't want to pray. - you don't have to do that. you just need to go. i'm going to take you, sevda, to your room back here. 'as texans, the frazees believe in southern hospitality.' you have your own room and your own walk-in closet and private bathroom. oh, my god!
this is our upstairs room. - and i think you'll like it. - oh, my god! - that's a 62-inch flat screen. we're not going to let you watch a lot of television. - wow. i walk in. it's literally like a five-star hotel. yeah? and then you've got the dad. he looked at me like he thinks, "she's going to be a problem." they've all got such big qualifications. they're going to massive colleges and schools.
they've all got, like... in england, the highest aspiration is work in mcdonald or tesco's. here, they're, like, going to the top of what you can get to. - aren't you nervous? - i have anxiety. - of course i'm nervous. - i've got anxiety as well. i'm feeling really nervous. 'the fifth commandment states, "honour thy mother and thy father."' hey, andrew and sevda? we're ready for you. 'the frazees expect the teens to agree to follow their rules.'
because i'm a pastor, we have a unique position in the community. we've spent years building a reputation, and we'd like you to help us maintain that. no swearing or bad language. we want our language to be uplifting. - so we'd really like for you to honour what we will do. - of course. no drinking. again, under-age. you have to be 21 in texas, so we can't have you do that. no smoking inside or outside the house. in texas, unless you're over the age of 18, it's illegal. if you look at any of them as the biggest, it's not lying, it's trust.
trust is the...is the ace for us. if you're trustworthy in our home, you get more privileges. if you prove untrustworthy, you'll see that other side of us where, for your sake, we're buckling down. - ok? - of course. so your first opportunity to demonstrate trust to us... trust. if there are things that you have that would challenge these rules, i'm going to ask you in a moment to go get it and surrender it. you're dismissed. come back and we'll be right here.
oh, no! a week! randy chuckles i can't do it. do you know what i'm gonna do? i'm gonna give a couple like this. oh! this is horrible! i'll hide this up here. for fuck's sake, man! it's dawning on me, the enormity of the situation. no cigarettes. i go through a box a day, easy. considerably stricter than home.
like, considerably so. so... yeah. that's all you have? i don't even have a box. you don't have anything in your suitcases or your rooms? - have one last smell. - goodbye. see me, yeah? i'm just wonderful. got my fags hidden somewhere! - ew. i'd never put them in the bin. - pardon? - i'd never put them in the bin! - you didn't think of that? see my silly little signs for my guests?
- very good. - nothing? it's clear in here. 'randy is due to speak in church, and the family will be joining him. 'as a figurehead in the community, he wants to make sure the teens give the best reflection on his family.' on saturday night i do a service. you're going to go to work with me. good behaviour would be the language thing. - as long as i don't have to pray to jesus. - no. 'randy leaves ten minutes early to make the preparations 'for the big saturday service in front of a congregation of 1,000.
'he expects the teens to be presentable and on time. 'sevda decides it's time to get changed.' - sevda? - hello. - it's five minutes. are you doing ok? - yeah. i'm just getting dressed. - awesome. see you in a minute. 'for andrew, the prospect of church is uncomfortable.' i've got no problem with religion. it's the people who worship those deities and religions. - sevda, how long do you think it will take? - oh, my god! there we go. 'for image-conscious sevda, making the right first impression is everything.'
you're about to fall out of there. you might want something over your shoulders. - what are you saying? - you probably need to rethink wearing that top. - they don't have to look. - i think men are created very differently. however, everyone is accepted at our church so you can wear that if you like. of course. i'd love to wear this. you're the one who's got an issue. - do you want a shawl in case it gets cold? - yeah. if she knew how the gentlemen would look at her, not just the boys but the older men,
and how it would play out in their minds, she would not be happy with what they might be thinking. that's a sad thing when sex and love are totally separated. 'the service has been running for ten minutes 'when the teens finally arrive.' covering up the chest! - roseanne: thank you, sevda. - that's all right. children, obey your parents and the lord, for this is right... 'a megachurch is a church with 2,000 or more regular worshippers.
'randy's is one of the largest in the united states.' you'll find all different kinds of people in different kinds of dress. you're not going to have to say anything. let's go stand in the back for a minute. - it's not that. it's just that i'm in a church! - you are! 'roseanne doesn't expect sevda to pray, but she does expect her to behave herself.' everyone's welcome. studies tell us that the greatest gift you can give to your children is to demonstrate to your children love...
- whispers: - i feel like i'm in a movie or something. - the music. - until he's finished, shut up! - you shut up! - don't say a word. no way! it's a fucking church! so what? i used to go to church. i had to whisper in church. 'with the service over, the congregation gather to greet randy and be introduced to the teens.' hi. thank you for coming. it's all good. inaudible
- howdy! > - howdy. that's a texan greeting. glad to see you. howdy. 'back home, sevda is suspicious of strangers.' i wanna go. i wanna go. she's gone for a little bit? ok. what am i doing? seriously. oh, my god. i had those thoughts, too, before you got here. "what am i doing introducing this drama into our lives?" right?
- but you know what...? - you don't know how i'm feeling. you really don't. to come over from england, yeah? stay with a family i don't know. and, like, i've got to do all these things. it's a lot. you don't understand. plus, you took my cigarettes away. - let's talk about it when we get home. - yeah. i'd like some time to myself. i need a cigarette. - i need a cigarette. - how about we talk about that? - there's no talking. i want a cigarette. 'to avoid making a scene, roseanne takes sevda straight home. 'back at the house,
'sevda's desperate for a smoke, and roseanne is on her guard.' sevda. - there's a cigarette in there. - no. i need to go toilet. - we have a bathroom right... - no. - sevda... - get off me, bruv. - we have another bathroom. - why are you touching me for? - we have another bathroom. - i'm going home, bruv. sevda giggles i'm going home. are you stupid? open the fucking door, man. i'm going home. are you dumb?
putting your hand on me. you're fucking stupid! dickhead! don't film me, bruv. seriously! why are you coming here for? go away! - when you are ready to talk like an adult... - piss off! go the fuck away! - ..i will be looking... - i don't like you! i'm not coming back in your house. that's that. bitch. 'the frazees decide to give sevda time to reflect on her behaviour.' it's just a lot of attitude. "don't get in my way!"
out of love, we can outlast her. i'm not going to get her. it could be a really cold night. think i'm going back in that house? you must be crazy. i'm not going back in there. 'concerned that sevda's rocking the boat, 'andrew has a word.' - get over it! - what are you talking about? - you're acting like some fucking prick. - why are you taking their side? - i'm not. - you are. this is our fucking chance and you've screwed it up on the first day. you're going to balls-up your one chance to do something right.
'three hours later, sevda has not returned to the house.' bitch! she makes me sick. roseanne: i'd like to order three large pizzas. do you have a special? this is for delivery. 'the frazees refuse to let sevda ruin the family evening.' they're proper treating me like a kid. "we're getting pizza and you're on the naughty step." skin. this is pepperoni with pineapple. 'inside the house, the family atmosphere is winning andrew over.'
i'm not going to give up just cos of their rules. why is the car there for? go away and let me sleep. 'the frazees are giving andrew a new view on family life.' a culture shock. coming from england, you know. my parents are divorced. most parents of the people i know are divorced. i've come here and they're the happiest family in the world! i can't even act like a dick towards them. i try but i can't.
they're so nice! 'randy and roseanne's strategy of leaving sevda to stew 'has finally paid off.' i really don't want to walk back in but it's got to be done. they're just so controlling and stubborn. hello. sevda, hi. sorry. for what, sevda? what do you think you did wrong?
- i lost my temper. - you did. i accept your apology. i want to check something out, ok? you lost trust. we care about you. we are going to walk with you. and we expect for you to make mistakes and start over again. that's called forgiveness. 'the frazees' calm, gentle approach seems to have an effect on sevda.' i knocked over the coffee. i don't know why i do that. because i can be so considerate and nice to people. my mum always says to me that i've got this stinking attitude.
if that was me in london, i would have got a bottle of vodka and drank my sorrows away. that's what i would have done but today, it was different. i had to talk to them cos i wasn't going to give up. they wasn't going to give in, so it had to be done. i think there's a small victory, believe it or not. we didn't give in and give her the cigarette. we think the cigarettes is a smaller issue than authority in her life and, basically, overpowering people.
'in the frazee household, the day starts bright and early.' morning. it's after seven and we have things planned today so we've got to get up, bud. ok? 'at this time, andrew would usually be getting in from a big night out.' what time do i normally get up? well, i don't get up in the morning. 'the frazees believe that, to help yourself, 'you must learn to help others. 'they have arranged for the teens
'to volunteer at a homeless shelter in san antonio.' we're going to haven for hope. cos i'm not going to be there, this is kind of a test of trust. what i need for you guys to do is to show up and to participate - and to make a contribution. - definitely. - you up for that? - yeah. i think it's going to benefit both of them to see that, "oh, my goodness! there is a way that people can be helped. "it's so satisfying. maybe the key to my life is not to be so focused on myself." 'only a fifth the size of london,
'san antonio has the same number of homeless people on its streets. 'haven for hope is a 100-million state-of-the-art shelter. 'it's the only one of its kind in the united states.' welcome to prospect courtyard... 'the teens will be supervised by project leader susan jenkins, 'who oversees volunteers and new residents.' we bring people in that sleep under the bridge, in the parks and such, give them a shower and a meal and keep them safe. we do not discriminate.
that means there are individuals who have just gotten out of jail. there are some dangerous individuals so you do have to be careful. we advise people for their jewellery and such, to put that all away. - i'm a bit nervous now. - good. good! - can you do it? - yeah. - ok, do it. we're going to talk about this at dinner. - how's it going today? - very good. take everything off that's metal and go through my metal detector.
take your bandana off. 'the residents earn their place on campus 'by taking part in rehabilitation programmes and working in the community.' we're going to take you in the kitchen and get you ready to serve. 'it's lunch time, and there are more than 800 people to feed.' - laughing: - andrew! i feel like a prick. i most likely look like a prick. apron?
go on. i put loads of carrots for you guys. i don't work here, so take advantage of me. i'm giving them loads of carrots. 'while sevda is in her element, 'andrew is affronted by a lack of thanks for his hard work.' it's weird. like, they're getting food and they don't care. i don't mean to sound like a pompous dick, but they're so ungrateful. you've got your food, yes? don't you feel like you're helping and you can chillax a bit?
i'm doing it because i have to. it's just not my thing. 'after 20 minutes, andrew has given up.' they don't have anything in their eyes. there's no spark. everyone has a spark, even a tiny glint in their eyes. they have nothing. a lot of what you see is fear. < other people are not going to do anything. we have to channel what you feel into giving people hope. no. i don't know if i can do it.
i come from an upper-class background. i've been to private school all my life. everyone i know, quite a lot of my friends, they make the wealthy people here seem like commoners. the amount of money i've been around and i guess i've been fucking spoilt and my parents have given me a bit too much but... it just contrasts on such a fucking level that i just can't handle it. 'lunch service over, the frazees arrive to pick up the teens.' everyone i met, i got along with them.
- all right! - they're proper nice. andrew, you look like you're struggling. today, full stop, everything, like... i don't know. i've not been into it. you think you tried your best? > i did it because i have to. that's it. that's literally it. i'm doing it because i have to. here it is.
we're going to get some lunch. 'the frazees believe that education and character development 'are critical to a young person's upbringing. 'both teens have been failing at school. 'the frazees want them to start a self-improvement programme 'to try and get them back on track 'at the boys & girls club of america in nearby boerne.' any questions about the rules? 'the boerne centre is run by programme director diane chase.'
we have a lot of kids that are on probation or have been in trouble hanging out, side-by-side, with kids that are getting good grades, kids that are doing the things they should be doing. it can do nothing but benefit them. our focus is about personal responsibility, character development, learning how to be an adult and making positive life choices that stick with you. where are we going? is that a school, bruv? listen to me carefully. both of you are smart. you know you're smart. we believe in you. do everything they ask you to do and wow them.
- fine. - impress them, ok? - hi, miss. - hi. diane chase. - who are you, babe? - pardon. what's your name? - diane. - it's ok. what's yours? - sevda. - say that again. - sevda. - that's beautiful. - thank you. - welcome. andrew. nice to meet you. nice to meet you. the one rule is we respect each other, we don't put each other down, whether we dress or talk differently. we try to avoid swearing.
everybody want to grab a seat? - laughing: - i don't want to be here! - let it slide. 'sevda got no qualifications. 'in year 12, her mum was issued a parenting order for low attendance. 'soon after, sevda stopped going.' why don't we start with introductions? 'miss chase wants the teens to get to know one another. i'm georgia. i'm 17. i'm a senior at boerne high school.
i like to ride horses and i want to be a doctor. i'm a pretty good kid! 'listening to the ambitions and achievements of her new classmates is intimidating for sevda.' i like to play sports. i'm on the basketball team. basketball's my life. i'm a senior at... - can i go outside, please? - what, honey? keep talking. 'accustomed to difficult teenagers, miss chase goes looking for sevda.' they're not the kind of people i'd make friends with.
- how do you know that? - they're not my kind of people. i'm asking you to give them a chance the way they're giving you a chance. don't judge them. give them the opportunity that they're giving you. - that's all i'm asking. - but they're all together. and i'm just here. give them a chance, ok? - yeah. - it's not going to hurt. i had a joint that long in my hand... 'andrew had a fortune spent on his education, 'but he left school with only three gcses.'
school didn't go particularly well for me. my parents spent a lot of money on school and i threw it back in their face. i've messed everything up. yeah. to be perfectly blunt and honest. < i failed everything. 'during break time, students are encouraged to socialise.' sevda was the quiet one. i wanted to hear more out of her but andrew's really talkative. he spoke what was on his mind. i like that. he's really cool.
she seems cool. i just wish she would open up to us. i think she'd be cool to hang out with. 'sevda stays inside and tries to avoid the crowd. 'classmate carlton makes an approach.' - you like art? - yeah. i do it when i'm nervous. in a lesson, i like to draw. so you like art. you're very stylish. you have a lot going for you. do you like to party?
a lot? so do i. you want to know where i just got back from? - i got five months in jail. - really? - yeah. my mum's an alcoholic. my dad, i don't know where he is. i've been to every school in this town cos of moving. i've been through rough times. - i hate all of this. - you don't want to do this? - i don't like school. - i don't do school. - i say go for it... 'despite carlton's efforts, the pressure of fitting in proves too much.'
oh, my god! i'm not staying here. laughter 'whilst andrew settles in, 'sevda sits out the rest of the afternoon. 'back home, roseanne wants to find out what's troubling her.' when it comes to doing things, i can never follow through. - you don't follow through? - never. - never? - do you not like that? - i hate it. it's why i couldn't do school. - cos you would give up? - hm.
i know you could do school. in order to get to be an executive and do some of the things that you dream about doing, you kinda have to prove yourself on paper, unfortunately. i've failed so many times in school, so i'm kind of used to it now. that's why i'm here. i really want to try. you do. it makes us feel bad when we fail. - about ourself. - mm. - but it doesn't change who we are. we've got to love inside, who we are.
and say, "you know what? i can't do that. "but i can do this." - yeah. - you have so many things you can do. you are sevda. you are funny. you are smart. you're clever. that's who you are, and that's not up for grabs. 'in the frazee household, 'the family get together every day to bond over an evening meal. 'randy has been keeping a close eye on the teens' progress.'
'i'm learning about where they're from. they're from polar opposites.' when they arrived i thought they were the same, and they're very different. andrew, i was surprised he didn't make more progress. there's something about looking homelessness in the face. i'm not sure why. it really angers him, really unnerves him. for sevda, i'm learning that she is a part of a community that you relate to and identify with the people in that community. but once you go outside of that, you have to be guarded because you can't trust them. 'it's the third day in texas.
'the teens are being sent back to the boys & girls club.' i know, sevda, this is a challenge for you. i'm going to ask you to lose the attitude. go through the fire of this experience and we'll be here to hear your success story, for you and everybody who needs to get through a difficult situation. - can you give it a try for me? - yeah. - dig down deep, girl. - yeah. - we'll be back in a little bit. - andrew: shut up! - you shut up! arse! 'the day begins with a team-building exercise.'
so, is everybody ready to roll? > the simple explanation is you're going to the park to play games. 'the class head to the park. 'when the games begin, sevda doesn't want to play.' - i don't want to go over there. - all right. i just feel, what am i here with these people for? you want to come back and help me set up the room for the kids? all the art stuff? ..ok. 'sensing sevda's lack of confidence,
'miss chase gets her to focus on her positive memories from school.' think of something that a teacher said that stuck with you. i got along with my old teachers. they all loved me. i've let my teachers down. - you can go and talk to them. - i wouldn't want to go back to my secondary school. the message you need to carry from them is that you've got potential. i'm just naturally paranoid. like, i'm just paranoid all the time. 'the rest of the class have completed the trust-building game. 'miss chase sets her homework.'
so, the last phase of the project we're working on is a challenge for you guys to map out where you are now and where you see yourself going. then present it in whatever way you are comfortable with. 'miss chase hopes her course will help sevda 'address some of her insecurities.' she projects the things that make her feel uncomfortable, the things that make her nervous and her self-esteem issues onto other people,
rather than take the chance that she'll be vulnerable. that's what she doesn't want to be. 'problems began when her father left the family home.' she hasn't really got a relationship with her dad. she never did have. 'he left her.' 'i've had opportunities to be in contact with him.' but i don't want to get hurt again. and again. and again. i told her why we split up. she said, "would you ever go back with him?" i said, "never!" i've never had a father figure in my life, you know.
i always think, if he was in my life, how would my life be? how would i be as a person? always think that. 'time away from home has given sevda the chance to reflect 'on how her father's absence has affected her.' it makes me angry that my dad hasn't tried with me because it affects my relationships with people. i can't trust people because i think they're gonna walk out, just like my dad did, like my parent.
maybe if i just opened up a bit, stopped being so tight and just, like...closed. i need to stop that. i'm not going to let the fact that i didn't have a dad hold me back. 'the frazees often do charity outreach work. 'they're taking the teens to a soup kitchen in san antonio. 'randy has been concerned about andrew's attitude since his outburst at the homeless shelter.' say something nice to them. "bless you." something. wish them a great day. something, ok?
all right. i think i can manage. there you go. enjoy it, man. i'd love to do this for a job. i seriously would. i feel so good. i really do. i don't fucking think i can do this. it's the most depressing thing i've ever seen in my life. < i can't do this. this is so depressing. 'sensing andrew's distress, randy intervenes.'
i want to introduce you to melvin. from the uk, man? gloves? i don't have germs. - i got the cooties, though! - i want you to meet melvin. tell him a little about your story. when i was where you come from, it was the same way. homeless people? really? "let me get a dollar!" "get a job, bro!" seriously. i'm in manhattan. brooklyn, new york. working in night clubs. "excuse me, man. you got a dollar?"
"oh, man. what you need a dollar for? you gonna get drunk?" you just look down at people. when you hit that level they're on, there's no more looking down. i got a whole new-found respect for these individuals. it's for real. that's straight from the heart. i never thought i'd be in a situation that i am right now. i understand completely. good to meet you, man. 'chatting with melvin has given andrew a whole lot to think about.' it makes me realise how much of a prick i've been.
i've wasted everything. i've wasted so much money. the money i wasted on school could have bought these people a fucking house! 'if anything, this is the reason why you came here.' that's what i love about you, man. because you love people. you know? how could this happen? hopeless, almost like. yeah. yeah.
wow. > andrew: it shouldn't happen, man. can you gut it up and head back? yeah. sure. just give me a minute. 'feeling drained, but with new resolve, andrew returns to serving.' how you doing, andrew? good. there you go, man. 'yeah. i'm glad i came down. it hasn't been a highlight.' it has, at the same time. it's strange.
i'm always going to keep the memory of what's going on here. it's stopped me being so prejudiced and such a...dick about it. it's changed my mind completely. 'as a storm hits texas, 'the teens head to the boys & girls club for the last time. 'their assignment has been to create an art project that shows their life's journey.' this is the relaxing period of my life, where i'm going to retire. this means i'm finished and safe, cos i have the shield of wisdom. i'm hoping to go make my life story happen.
miss chase: excellent. 'simply being amongst new classmates has been a struggle for sevda. 'now she must present her life story to them.' so this is a big thing for me right now. you may think it's a small group. it's a really big thing for me. ok, basically, i might seem intimidating but deep down i am a nice soft person. i've learnt to be patient, hold my anger, stay cool. things are easier to get through when you just keep the peace.
i've learnt not to say, "i don't feel comfortable", "why is everyone staring?" and "i can't do it" because it's pointless. i feel proud because i actually find that i can do it. i needed to open up about my life and stuff, 'just so i could actually change.' - first step, managing to finish something. - get a certificate! - yeah. - i haven't got a certificate for three years. - same. - a certificate! - the first step on a new road. - yeah. i'll give you a hug. ah. mum and dad's here!
get my teacher! get my teacher! - hi. - no more school. you did it! i'm not letting them take you away from me now! she told us all about her life and her ambitions. i was proud of her. way to go, sevda. what about andrew? 'randy thinks that andrew will benefit from some quality father-and-son time. 'he wants to give him a real texan experience, 'and is taking him to a friend's shooting ranch.'
we have a little time to laugh and lose yourself in hanging out together. 'you really do learn a lot and bond a lot, 'and it takes bonding to have hard conversations.' - i hit it? - you hit it. - yeah! andrew laughs for queen and country. pull. you did it again. - it beats video games. - yeah. this beats video games any day.
randy! > i'm back, baby! i'm back! i'm back! - shall we do one last shell each? - all right. < oh, my goodness! you both got it! yeah! - that was awesome. - that was good, man. 'before they leave the ranch, 'randy wants to find out 'what andrew's learned about himself in texas.'
i've heard you say several times, "i squandered my opportunities." "i've failed up to this point." yeah, i realise i've been failing my parents. they've said it's always their fault. they haven't failed me. i've been failing, not only myself, but them. they've given me everything. i've given them nothing. i've literally seen them, like, on their knees, crying, begging for me to change. i've walked off. "fuck off! you're being over the top."
my dad's getting old and i want to be able to make something of myself. i've never quite seen my dad actually...truly be proud. i want to be able to pay him back. one piece of advice i might give you is that it's all about the opportunity to be forgiven and starting fresh. i promise you, no matter what you think about your dad, from the perspective of a dad, i can tell you he's waiting for his son to come home. usually, i'm fairly good with words but i don't have much to say
- other than...just, thank you. - you're welcome, man. that was awesome, man. 'the time has come for the teens to leave texas 'and return to their own families.' - voice breaking: - it's been an honour to have you in our home. we want you to live life to the full with everything you have in you. it began with enormous apprehension. it ended with tremendous hope and a sense of accomplishment, i think, for all parties involved.
the number one thing we can say is we fell in love with two kids from england. - bye, dad. - bye, darling. they're a wonderful family. lovely, lovely people. they've got so much love in their hearts. - thank you very much. - you're welcome. i'm going to help round the house. i'm going to respect my mum more. i'm most looking forward to going to college, just to get things back working. i love you guys.
the frazee family must be the nicest people i've ever met. in fact, they are. you know? bye. 'i'm hoping that mum is going to be surprised that i've changed,' that i can make life easier for her. i hope he comes back with a sense of achieving something. i want to see him motivated and excited about things. one of the purposes of this was to help his self-esteem. ah! to be home!
i'm definitely going to be more helpful. it's not actually that much of a problem. i was whining about it cos i couldn't be bothered. this is so wonderful. 'i see a change.' i see an old andrew. i cannot tell you how happy i feel. i owe randy and his family everything, just like i owe you and dad. oh, god! i'm so grateful. do you know how much you move me?
'i cannot describe how happy i feel. i'm humble.' i really hope it is the making of andrew. i really hope so. i really hope she's learnt to open her eyes. drop this barrier, give people a chance. get rid of this chip on her shoulder and this bad attitude. knuckle down and sort out her education. knocks on door hey, nanny. - welcome back. - hey, mum!
i missed you. i had to fill this in. "i don't like it." "i don't feel comfortable." in the end, i thought, "if i can do this, i can do anything." it really challenged me. i'm sorry for my attitude. i need to stop being self-centred. - it's just holding me back, man. - yes. she's got the capability to do anything she wants. i just really hope now that this is going to prove she can do it. i left my london attitude in texas and brought my texas attitude back.
- i'm really proud of you. - oh, i missed you! i'm really proud of you. 'next time on the world's strictest parents, 'wannabe rap star daniel and spoilt brat forest...' - i've got myself to think about. - that's all you think about. '..get new parents in holland.' - it isn't acceptable for me. - i don't want to share my room with them. it's a matter of trust! i think, but i can't prove it, that he's taken some drugs.
subtitling by red bee media ltd e-mail firstname.lastname@example.org